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Emotional Affairs
By Gina Resto
I met a handsome man; we liked each other a lot. Even though, he lived in another state, we emailed to each every day, I felt like I couldn’t wait for his next email to come in. However, after 3 weeks of sharing about each other; I asked him about his marital status and he responded that he was “happily married”. I was in shock, confused and couldn’t understand how a married man would keep building a friendship with a woman is not his wife.  He said that I assumed something else, but what kind of assumption could it be when two people are flattering with each other for 3 weeks? Why he didn’t mention the most important thing in his life, his family?  Of course, by God’s grace I hold strong to my faith and told him to please NEVER contact me again. Send him a link of a good church and tell him to straight up his values.  I assumed my responsibility and not only told him to respect his wife but accepted my mistake for speaking to a stranger.
What’s this stranger’s soul condition that made him feel the need for an emotional affair? I started researching the reasons why our spouses could be having an emotional affair with another being, just to find out very high statistics about how many marriages are suffering because of emotional affairs. The main reason its lack of spiritual connection with our creator and the second one most common; it’s how we take for granted our partner’s need for love and emotional reassurance. 
Emotional affairs are rooted in fear. Fear of intimacy, rejection and abandonment. The fear causes people to manipulate and lie to their partners. Our spouses are not responsible to create happiness in ourselves or feeling our ego needs, we must stop being victims and act victorious loving ourselves in the love of God and learning to release our anxieties to our creator. It’s important to take time to acknowledge our inner fears and to face them by dedicating time to our souls, but also taking the time for dating our spouse. We must stop looking for love in all the wrong places. The Bible says, “Above all; protect your heart”.
Recipe for a happy-faithful marriage:
1)      Consider time alone with God and explain him your fears. Have faith!
2)      Consideration and kindness to each other
3)      Encourage each other with confidence
4)      Praise each other
5)      Always say “ I AM SORRY”
6)      Create harmony in the conversations
7)      Speak the truth with love
8)      Date each other, create happy memories.
9)      Keep the flame on fire!
10)   Keep the presence of God in the center of your heart, relationship and home.
11)   Help in your church or community.
12)   Keep the order of your priorities clear: God, Family, work and others….
Infidelidad  Emocional
Gina Resto
Nos conocimos, nos gustábamos bastante y aunque él vivía en otra ciudad, nos escribíamos electrónicamente todos los días. Sentía que no podía esperar por su próximo correo. Sin embargo, después de 3 semanas de compartir y coquetearnos mutuamente me dijo que estaba” felizmente casado”. Me sentí  tan estúpida y confundida cuando me dijo que yo había asumido ideas, sin embargo me pregunto que clase de ideas pude tener cuando en todo este tiempo él nunca me informo de su familia, lo mas importante en la vida de cualquier ser humano. Por supuesto, por la gracia de Dios le dije que nunca más me contactara, que respetara a su esposa y sin sentirme una victima, acepte mi responsabilidad  por hablar con extraños.
Cual es la condición de esta alma tan extraña a mis valores que necesito ser infiel emocionalmente? Decidí buscar información y sin ir muy lejos, las estadísticas indican que es algo muy común en el matrimonio y es un problema que puede destruir familias. La razón por la cual tendemos a tener una infidelidad emocional es simplemente por que no nos conectamos con nuestro creador constantemente el cual es el centro de nuestro corazón, y la segunda muy común es que se nos olvida la importancia de darle seguridad emocional a nuestras parejas.
Las infidelidades emocionales están basadas en el miedo. Miedo a la intimidad, al rechazo y al abandono. Nuestros miedos e inseguridades pueden manipular con mentiras a nuestros esposos y provocar resultados lamentosos. Nuestra pareja no es responsable de llenar nuestras almas de gozo ni de llenar nuestros egos. Es importante salir del ser victima y lograr ser un ser victorioso en como vivimos nuestras vidas sin buscar por la aprobación ajena. Es de suma importancia lograr dedicar tiempo a nuestras almas y comunicar nuestras ansiedades con Dios.  Dejar de buscar amor en los lugares incorrectos es de suma importancia para la prosperidad de nuestras relaciones más importantes. La Biblia dice: Sobre encima de todo, protege tu corazón!
Receta para un matrimonio Fielmente Feliz:
1)      Toma tu tiempo con Dios y explícale tus miedos, Ten Fe!
2)      Dese confianza mutuamente
3)      Alábense mutuamente
4)      Se amable y considerable con tu pareja
5)      Siempre, siempre y siempre decir “LO SIENTO”
6)      Crea conversaciones armoniosas
7)      Habla la verdad con amor y sin ofender
8)      Tengan citas románticas todas las semanas
9)      Mantengan  el fuego de la pasión encendida
10)   Mantengan la presencia de Dios en el centro del corazón, del hogar y de la relación.
11)   Manténganse ocupados ayudando su familia, iglesia y comunidad.
12)   Tengan en claro y respeten los valores: Dios, usted,  la familia, el trabajo, la comunidad y los demás….






Mujer Espiritual: Emotional Affairs

Mujer Espiritual: Emotional Affairs: Emotional Affairs I met a handsome man; we liked each other a lot. Even though, he lived in another state, we emailed to each every day...

Emotional Affairs


Emotional Affairs
I met a handsome man; we liked each other a lot. Even though, he lived in another state, we emailed to each every day, I felt like I couldn’t wait for his next email to come in. However, after 3 weeks of sharing about each other; I asked him about his marital status and he responded that he was “happily married”. I was in shock, confused and couldn’t understand how a married man would keep building a friendship with a woman is not his wife.  He said that I assumed something else, but what kind of assumption could it be when two people are flattering with each other for 3 weeks? Why he didn’t mention the most important thing in his life, his family?  Of course, by God’s grace I hold strong to my faith and told him to please NEVER contact me again. Send him a link of a good church and tell him to straight up his values.  I assumed my responsibility and not only told him to respect his wife but accepted my mistake for speaking to a stranger.
What’s this stranger’s soul condition that made him feel the need for an emotional affair? I started researching the reasons why our spouses could be having an emotional affair with another being, just to find out very high statistics about how many marriages are suffering because of emotional affairs. The main reason its lack of spiritual connection with our creator and the second one most common; it’s how we take for granted our partner’s need for love and emotional reassurance. 
Emotional affairs are rooted in fear. Fear of intimacy, rejection and abandonment. The fear causes people to manipulate and lie to their partners. Our spouses are not responsible to create happiness in ourselves or feeling our ego needs, we must stop being victims and act victorious loving ourselves in the love of God and learning to release our anxieties to our creator. It’s important to take time to acknowledge our inner fears and to face them by dedicating time to our souls, but also taking the time for dating our spouse. We must stop looking for love in all the wrong places. The Bible says, “Above all; protect your heart”.
Recipe for a happy-faithful marriage:
1)      Consider time alone with God and explain him your fears. Have faith!
2)      Consideration and kindness to each other
3)      Encourage each other with confidence
4)      Praise each other
5)      Always say “ I AM SORRY”
6)      Create harmony in the conversations
7)      Speak the truth with love
8)      Date each other, create happy memories.
9)      Keep the flame on fire!
10)   Keep the presence of God in the center of your heart, relationship and home.
11)   Help in your church or community.
12)   Keep the order of your priorities clear: God, Family, work and others….

miércoles, 14 de noviembre de 2012


Relaciones Espirituales
Por Gina Resto

Tener un compañero espiritual en nuestras vidas es la máxima decisión que podríamos hacer para mantener nuestra paz. Un ser espiritual que ha decidido ser responsable con su salud emocional y madurez  es la llave para un relación pacifica.
La decisión de tener ciertas relaciones determina el futuro de nuestras vidas. Después de pasar por situaciones dolorosas con nuestras relaciones familiares y amistades, tenemos que aprender a ser mas sabios eligiendo nuestro círculo íntimo de amistades. Discernimiento espiritual es el ingrediente que necesitamos adherir a nuestra capacidad de elegir bien, pero sobre todo nosotros tenemos que aprender a ser espirituales.
¿Que significa ser una persona espiritual?
Es necesario darle la importancia necesaria a nuestra paz interior, visitando lugares callados como un parque y su naturaleza, o bien escuchar música que nos de un balance espiritual o simplemente ir a los lugares donde tu espíritu se reconecta con tu paz interior.
Cuando empezamos a crecer espiritualmente en nuestras vidas, es importante cuidar esa paz interna. Mantener una vida sana y callada es elemental  para mantener la paz interior. Solamente las personas que entienden el valor de una vida espiritual pueden ser capaces de tener una relación espiritual con otra persona.
Las personas espirituales  con su pareja espiritual operan con la misma dirección en la vida, les gusta la comida sana, los lugares con armonía espiritual, leen libros de sabiduría divina, tienen una fe en común así como su meta es la de crecer y ayudar a los demás ósea hablan un mismo idioma. Las personas inconscientes operan en dolor y sufrimiento creando drama con sus emociones y decisiones inmaduras que solamente dañaran la confianza en la relación.  Cuando una persona espiritual ha cruzado el rio de la transformación espiritual, la gracia de Dios lo ayuda a pedir perdón y tener humildad para poder seguir creciendo en armonía divina. Cuando un ser espiritual trata de tener una relación con un ser que no es espiritual el daño es enorme, ya que no caminan en la misma frecuencia  y no miran, actúan y piensan igual.










Tips de para una relación espiritual:
1)      Aprende a ser una persona que busca la paz espiritual por medio de la oración, meditación, canticos espirituales.
2)      Toma tiempo para estar a solas y hablar con Dios o leer libros sobre la sabiduría espiritual, los cuales dan mucho auto-conocimiento.
3)      Se honesto contigo mismo sobre cuales tipos de personas quieres como amistades cercanas
4)      Protege tu paz, no escojas gente que le gusta discutir en tu circulo
5)      Tus valores espirituales son tus ingredientes mas importantes en tu vida, no los comprometas
6)      No te creas expectativas de alguien que no conoces,  observa- y cuando oigas lo que dice la gente- aplica tu discernimiento espiritual
7)      Si esa persona se emborracha, es promiscua, no es emocionalmente estable o desbalanceada-Corre en dirección opuesta!
8)      Busca gente que habla el mismo vocabulario espiritual
9)      Las personas espirituales son muy responsables  con su crecimiento, aprende a ser como ellos!





Peaceful Relationships



Peaceful Relationships

Having a spiritual partner in our lives it’s the ultimate life choice. By choosing a spiritual person who has been responsible for self-healing, learning wisdom and becoming a spiritual and emotional responsible-mature and healthy person it’s the key to create peaceful relationships. 
Our relationships choices determine the aftermath of our lives.  After going through painful situations with family and friends relations, we must learn to become wiser in choosing our inner circle of intimate companions. Spiritual discernment it’s an ingredient we must add to the skills. We must learn in how to choose a spiritual person in our lives, but most importanlyt; we must learn to become one.
What is a spiritual person?  Spiritual people are the ones who surrender their Ego to God’s hands for guidance and inner healing. A spiritual person has hunger for the things of God, as for learn from wisdom and have the courage to go through the dark night of the soul and ask God or the Universe for divine help. One of the most important characteristic of the spiritual people is the peace in their hearts and their need to have a peaceful life around them. 
As you start becoming aware of your inner peace, you will start looking for places like a quiet park, some kind of music that will bring balance to your day, or go to a spiritual place that will reconnect you with your spirit by helping you to find healing and peaceful thoughts. 
Once you start growing spiritually in life, you become aware of how to maintain that peace in your life. The simple and quiet life it’s a pivotal ingredient of having a peaceful life.  Only the people who understand the value of the spiritual life will be able to intimately share with another spiritual person.
Spiritual people operate in the same life direction. Unconscious people operate life mostly in pain and suffering by bringing a lot of unhealthy emotions and immature decisions to the relationship and will damage the peace of the relationship. When a natural person has cross the river of sanctification and becomes a super-natural or spiritual person is a person who’s spiritual senses are filled with compassion for others and higher truth.  The spiritual person is filled with grace, the law of divine mercy- this grace will help the person to realize what’s wrong and to ask for forgiveness and divine healing with a humble heart.





How to create spiritual relationships:
1)      Become a person who looks for inner peace by praying, meditating and singing spiritual songs
2)      Take time to be alone and talk to God and read spiritual books
3)      Observe how peaceful is your life and make changes to create a better peaceful life
4)      Be honest with yourself about the type of people you want to have as close friends
5)      Protect your peace, don’t choose a non-peaceful person to share life with
6)      Your spiritual values are the most important ingredient in you r life, don’t compromise them
7)      Don’t create false ideas of someone, be sure to accept the truth about the other person’s life
8)      If you see that person, getting drunk, being promiscuous, not a stable or balanced person-RUN!
9)      Speak the same language, understand the same spiritual vocabulary.
10)   Spiritual people are very responsible of their growth and maturity! Choose to be one and find the one!