Emotional Affairs

Emotional Affairs

I met a handsome man; we liked each other a lot. Even though, he lived in another state, we emailed to each every day, I felt like I couldn’t wait for his next email to come in. However, after 3 weeks of sharing about each other; I asked him about his marital status and he responded that he was “happily married”. I was in shock, confused and couldn’t understand how a married man would keep building a friendship with a woman is not his wife.  He said that I assumed something else, but what kind of assumption could it be when two people are flattering with each other for 3 weeks? Why he didn’t mention the most important thing in his life, his family?  Of course, by God’s grace I hold strong to my faith and told him to please NEVER contact me again. Send him a link of a good church and tell him to straight up his values.  I assumed my responsibility and not only told him to respect his wife but accepted my mistake for speaking to a stranger.

What’s this stranger’s soul condition that made him feel the need for an emotional affair? I started researching the reasons why our spouses could be having an emotional affair with another being, just to find out very high statistics about how many marriages are suffering because of emotional affairs. The main reason its lack of spiritual connection with our creator and the second one most common; it’s how we take for granted our partner’s need for love and emotional reassurance. 

Emotional affairs are rooted in fear. Fear of intimacy, rejection and abandonment. The fear causes people to manipulate and lie to their partners. Our spouses are not responsible to create happiness in ourselves or feeling our ego needs, we must stop being victims and act victorious loving ourselves in the love of God and learning to release our anxieties to our creator. It’s important to take time to acknowledge our inner fears and to face them by dedicating time to our souls, but also taking the time for dating our spouse. We must stop looking for love in all the wrong places. The Bible says, “Above all; protect your heart”.

Recipe for a happy-faithful marriage:

1)      Consider time alone with God and explain him your fears. Have faith!

2)      Consideration and kindness to each other

3)      Encourage each other with confidence

4)      Praise each other

5)      Always say “ I AM SORRY”

6)      Create harmony in the conversations

7)      Speak the truth with love

8)      Date each other, create happy memories.

9)      Keep the flame on fire!

10)   Keep the presence of God in the center of your heart, relationship and home.

11)   Help in your church or community.

12)   Keep the order of your priorities clear: God, Family, work and others….